The purpose of understanding your privilege isn’t to make you feel something. Not guilt, not shame, not anything else. It’s to help you understand that you have a set of things you take for granted that other people don’t have, so that you can change the way you act.
One: Buy condoms. Buy them and keep them with you at all times, and use them before you are asked to use them. And use them every time. The peace of mind you allow your partner will free her to be vulnerable with you, and that, my son, is exactly what sex is about. Condoms are sexy. In fact, call buying condoms foreplay.
(Footnote: If you are too embarrassed to buy condoms, you are not ready to have sex.)
Two: Kissing is not merely foreplay. Spend entire evenings making out on the couch while fully clothed. Believe me, dry-humping rocks.
Three: Sex is not just about friction. It’s about emotion. Stop trying to find her clitoris and find her heart. Because then she’ll help you find her clitoris.
Four: If you really wanna know how to please a woman, ask her how she masturbates. Then do that. A lot. If she claims she doesn’t masturbate, offer to take her shopping for a vibrator so you can both learn the vocabulary of her body together.
Five: Don’t put anything in her butthole you wouldn’t want in your own.
(Footnote: Try a pinky finger, it’s kinda awesome.)
Six: When you go down on her—and you will go down on her, and if you are my son, you will be amazing at it—tell her how good she tastes. Stop in the middle and kiss her deeply so she knows how good she tastes. Do the same when she goes down on you.
Seven: A simple Google search will yield 1,327 euphemisms for male masturbation, yet only 23 for female masturbation. If guys spent less time jacking off and more time jilling off, this world would be a happier place.
Eight: Everything you need to know about the importance of the clitoris is in the movie Star Wars. You are Luke Skywalker piloting your penis-shaped X-Wing Fighter deep inside her trench. Remember: seventy percent of all Death Stars cannot be blown up through penetration of the trench alone. It must be through focused contact with that little exhaust port at the top of the trench. Otherwise, any explosions you experience will be merely Hollywood special effects.
Nine: Just because you come doesn’t mean she has, so don’t you dare come before her. Focus completely on your partner. Don’t worry about gettin’ yours, you’re a guy. You always get yours. Your job is to make sure she’s gettin’ hers.
Ten: If sex with your partner lasts no longer than this poem, you are not making love. You are masturbating with her body instead of your hand. Shame on you. Go back to step one. You’ve got a lot of learning to do.
Big Poppa E., “How To Make Love” (via jesusfuckmechrist
It is awful to want to go away and to want to go nowhere.
Sylvia Plath, ”The Unabridged Journals” (via vehxt
"Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me, and be my friend." -#AlbertCamus @ivanjed 👫💏😍😘❤
#Fresno nightlife with @mndyzh and @ivanjed ,! (at Tower District)
Rebloggable by request
I guess it’s a cultural thing..
This about sums it up
any more questions?
It is illegal for women to go topless in most cities, yet you can buy a magazine of a woman without her top on at any 7-11 store. So, you can sell breasts, but you cannot wear breasts, in America.
Violet Rose (via c-icatrix)
Talk about cognitive dissonance
This is one of my favorite quotes about sexualization/objectification vs autonomy of female bodies bc it’s so succinct
You colonized our hearts because our land wasn’t enough for you
alok vaid-menon (via ethiopienne
you still want to travel to
you could not take a camera with you.
a question of approrpriation,
nayyirah waheed (via nayyirahwaheed
© April-lea Hutchinson
#4thofjuly #america #usa 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
#yosemite @ivanjed (at Inspiration Point)
Obligatory post graduate haircut to tell the world I’m supposedly a grown woman. 💇💋
I met one of my biggest idols, #JonathanGold, at the #lastreetfoodfest yesterday afternoon. It was so surreal being able to critique food alongside one of the nation’s and #LA ‘s most beloved food critics. I hope to be just like him one day. 💙💛#gobruins #thedream #foodie #latimes (at LA Street Food Fest)